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My Womb Is Not A Football For You

May 12, 2013

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“Mothers don’t kill their children unless they are very ill,” said Diane Sanford, a psychologist who has written two books on postpartum depression.”They believe they are protecting their children from having a life of misery and suffering.”

“Motherhood is near to divinity. It is the highest, holiest service to be assumed by mankind.” ― Howard W. Hunter

“…One of the reasons so many women say “I’m not a feminist but…” (and then put forward a feminist position), is that in addition to being stereotyped as man-hating Amazons, feminists have also been cast as antifamily and antimotherhood.” ― Susan J. Douglas

“So how on earth can I bring a child into the world, knowing that such sorrow lies ahead, that it is such a large part of what it means to be human? I’m not sure. That’s my answer: I’m not sure.” ― Anne LamottOperating Instructions: A Journal of My Son’s First Year

The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness. -Honoré de Balzac

The hand that rocks the cradle
Is the hand that rules the world.

-W. R. Wallace

Many months ago, my friend Phonaesthetica wrote a blog post about Women contemplating Motherhood and Mothers and their Sons. As the Mother of a Son, I enjoyed the post.

As a Mother of a Son, I am sometimes discomfited by discussions about  Male Violence or its inevitability (and I do not believe in the inevitability of Male Violence).  Discussions about Male Violence, however, are important and necessary to Women’s Liberation and we have lots of them here and here. And we need to have them, no matter how much our personal bias makes us feel uncomfortable.

This isn’t a blog post about Mothers and Sons or Male Violence. [...]

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Being Feminist Means Telling Lesbians To Have Sex With Men

April 29, 2013

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“Feminist” Facebook page with 25,000 likes posts homophobic article discussing Lesbian sexuality and how Lesbians need to learn to appreciate penis so Lesbians and “people with penises” can have “fun” together.

The punch line? The article was posted by a 23-year old  woman.

Like, I have been a Lesbian longer than you’ve been alive.

If you think Lesbian Sexuality involves penis, you are doing it wrong.

So, it’s bad enough that, on a theoretical level, a feminist woman cannot follow an analysis about compulsory heterosexuality, etc.

There’s the additional HAVE YOU NO SHAME factor of yet another woman completely failing to consider how this issue of Trans Inclusion IMPACTS LESBIANS.

Lesbians – we must have some cloak of invisibility that makes any kind of “intersectional” analysis inapplicable to us.
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Here, Let Us Fix That For You

February 21, 2013

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Derpy woman-hating and lesbian hating crap.

Woman-hating and lesbian-hating crap.

Relevant political commentary and accurate with it.

Relevant political commentary and accurate with it.

FORWARD ALL YOUR DERPY MEMES TO US, WE SHALL FIXETH THEM FOR YOU.

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Lesbian Caucus 2013

February 4, 2013

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Lesbian Caucus

National Gay and Lesbian Task Force (NGLTF)

25th Annual Creating Change Conference

Atlanta, Georgia

Saturday, January 26, 2013

6:30-8:00 p.m.

Room 205

The format of the Lesbian Caucus was a facilitated discussion led by Dr. Laurie Young, Ph.D., Aging and Economic Security Director of NGLTF, and Darlene Nipper, Deputy Executive Director of NGLTF. Approximately 40 women participated in the discussion where they were free to address their needs. We decided as a group that this was a women-only space. The following topics were noted as important to those in attendance:

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The Life of a Radical Feminist Pirate

February 3, 2013

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L-R, Cathy Brennan, Sally Tatnall, Alix Dobkin, 2012.

 “Ever since childhood, I have been honing my skills for living the life of a Radical Feminist Pirate and cultivating the Courage to Sin,” she wrote in the opening of “Sin Big.” …The word ‘sin’ is derived from the Indo-European root ‘es-,’ meaning ‘to be.’ When I discovered this etymology, I intuitively understood that for a woman trapped in patriarchy, which is the religion of the entire planet, ‘to be’ in the fullest sense is ‘to sin.’ “ - Mary Daly.

I first met Sally Tatnall in the early 1990s through one of my best friends, who happens to be related to Sally. In the early 1990s, I lived in Buffalo, New York, where I attended law school at SUNY Buffalo (yey state schools and affordable tuition!) We drove the three hours to Cleveland to visit the city and Sally, who lived in a huge collective house of women.

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What About The Men?

January 22, 2013

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I am an avid reader of your blogs (I think I sent you a FB message once saying something to the effect of “keep fighting the good fight”). I was wondering if you might write up a post some day on how lay men who are not part of this particular struggle can be allies to females. I understand that this could mean we need to shut up, respect female-only spaces, and divest ourselves from patriarchy as much as we can. I think that you might have something to say though beyond that, which I think the handful of observers like me would be interested in hearing. Keep fighting the good fight.

Men can be allies to Women. [...]

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Straight Man Says Women “Bad” For Knowing Sex =//= Gender

January 18, 2013

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racist

I don’t mind casual racism when it goes with my hipster lifestyle and political views on gender!

Dan Solomon is a  “straight, white cisgender man” from Texas who has things to say about Women like Suzanne Moore and Julie Burchill who dare to (1) notice that transwomen are men and 2) have the guts to speak out about it.

Dan wants you to know that he’s got the backs of his fellow Men, err transwomen.

And he wants you to know why he takes transgender issues personally…

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Oh, Yes, “Creating Change”

January 18, 2013

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You might recall that last year, the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force waited until the last possible moment to remember that L in NGLTF stands for Lesbians. As a result of pressure put on NGLTF by Lesbian activists, NGLTF begrudgingly allowed Lesbians to have our own caucus for actual lesbians (that is, women-born-women, not men who think they are women) – hence, the Lesbian Caucus was born.

What a difference a year makes, right? This year is going to be the year of the Lesbian resurgence. I mean, the Lesbian Caucus has a 600-woman strong Facebook group!

Ha!

I joke.

Here is the 152-page Creating Change Program. [...]

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The Bystander Effect

January 9, 2013

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I was just so livid with “my side” this morning that I couldn’t stand to wait to reach out to you until I got to a computer. I just wanted you to know that I do NOT approve of the violent, sexually-charged threats that were made against you. I am so sorry that you have to go through this – no matter how much we disagree, nobody, not a single person, should have to suffer that. I read those messages and my stomach churned. I felt even more sick when I realized that, while folks were celebrating your removal from Tumblr, not one. single. person. spoke out to condemn the actions of the person that threatened you like that. I could rant about your tactics until I’m blue in the face, but I would still turn right back around and defend you in this case. I know you would do (and have done) the same for others whose views don’t line up with your own. Because, no matter our differences, we’re both women who are pissed off and fed up with this kind of bullshit. The only reason I haven’t said anything publicly yet is because I want to give someone, ANYONE, the chance to join me in speaking up. If not, i have a whole new blog post to write. I hope you are holding up okay, i can’t imagine how you must feel. We’re both women, regardless of our views, and I hate to see a fellow woman hurting like that. I hope you understand that I mean this genuinely, I wouldn’t have contacted you otherwise. – a private message I received from a Women who is a third-wave feminist after a Man threatened to rape me on Tumblr. I am pretty sure she never said anything publicly.

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In 1964, Winston Mosely murdered Kitty Genovese, a lesbian, in Brooklyn, New York.  Mosley killed Genovese over the course of a half-hour.  Numerous people heard Genovese’s cries for help, and did nothing.  Psychological studies of this phenomenon demonstrates that the greater the number of bystanders who view an emergency, the smaller the chance that any will intervene.

This is The Bystander Effect. [...]

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Intersectionality Has Its Limitations

December 28, 2012

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Why is it that heterosexual third-wave feminists understand “intersectionality” when it comes to everyone except Lesbians?

You know, Lesbians? Your sisters? Your sisters who love other Women (and by Women, I mean Women – not Trans Women).

A friend alerted me to a discussion on the Guerrilla Feminism Facebook page, run by a Woman named Lachrista Greco. I don’t pay much attention to Feminist Facebook pages, as they tend to ban Radical Feminist discussions, and I had never heard of Greco until two days ago.

Greco made a statement on her page that “Transphobia will not be tolerated” in response to a thread that devolved into a “what about the transwomen” discussion.

And she banned Women. A lot of Women (including me, because I am mean and scary).

The “transphobia” was, of course, Women, many of whom are Lesbian, stating that “transwomen are men.”

This statement – that transwomen are men – is KIND OF REALLY IMPORTANT for Lesbians.

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