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July 23, 2014

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Originally posted on naefearty:

Here’s something I wrote when I was asked to speak alongside Sheila Jeffreys, who was speaking about her book “Gender Hurts”, about how transgenderism harms women. In the end, I didn’t say all this, but for those of you who are interested, here it is..

“For the longest of time I told no-one. It is only in the past few years that I have found the words to describe my experience. Thank you, Sheila Jeffreys, and the Radical Feminist community of bloggers for the gift of words.

I used to have an online friend (also a partner of a man who thought he was a woman) who likened the experience of being partnered to a transgender to the frog who is put into the pot of water and the heat gradually turned up till cooked – a deliberate programme of de-sensitisation as each limit is compromised or ignored, and each line…

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From little things, big things grow.

July 11, 2014

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Originally posted on Questions for Us:

A few days ago, I went to pick up my 11 and 7 year old daughters from a holiday stint with my parents.

As we greeted each other with hugs, my 11 year old did not hesitate in telling me, with great concern, that she saw something terrible when she was in the car with my dad – a van that said all girls were sluts who want to try it just once.
I was stunned because only the day before I had put up images (again) of the type of messages that the car-hire business Wicked Campers revels in, on my social media pages – including (and especially) the one my daughter saw.

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So it’s official – something I personally called out has encroached and touched my family directly.

I was livid and went to make a complaint on the Advertising Standards Board.
The first thing you have to…

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I am my own wreckage; I am my own black box

July 9, 2014

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Cathy Brennan:

This is really beautiful and everyone should read it.

Originally posted on phonaesthetica:

Last week, I became someone who never had children.

Before then, I was someone who simply didn’t have them.  In March, though, I joined the waiting list for sperm from a bank that gives its donors names like “Woody” (or “Kim,” if they’re Asian). I read 17 pages of my guy’s family history and listened to his 10-minute interview.

“What advice would you like to pass on to your future child?” the interviewer asked.

“Life is hard,” he replied. “But if you can stay interested in things, it’s also a great adventure.”

“Staying interested in things,” simple as it sounds, is a full-spectrum anti-depression light box for the soul. Put me down for four vials! (It was a twofer deal). I loved this guy!

I even loved that he was only five foot eight. His family was full of short men married to tall women, so I figured they must…

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Poor, poor you

July 8, 2014

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Originally posted on Hypotaxis:

Trigger Warning: Kinda long post.

I’m guessing a lot of people have heard about the dude in Austin, TX who wanted to get a fancy, ladylike, bra fitting at some upscale (I’m guessing) lingerie store and was asked to use a separate changing room for the comfort and protection of the female customers.

The women working in the store would not participate in this guy’s delusion that he’s a woman, and despite his whimsical hats, eyeliner and precious lady posturing, the sales people immediately identified him as a male.

And in a lingerie shop this male, demanding a bra fitting, gave the female employees pause – and rightly so. Because sometimes, as women, we have to be careful. Most of the time, as women, we have to be careful – especially around men. Also, this was a business where women expect a measure of privacy and where women would prefer…

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I am Ryland – the story of a male-identifying little girl who didn’t transition

July 3, 2014

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Originally posted on lindsay leigh bentley:

I have been shying away from highly controversial topics on this blog recently because I just couldn’t take the drama that naturally associates with it.  But I keep hearing the story of Ryland, a child who was born a female, whose parents have transitioned her to male at 5 years old.  You can see the full story HERE, but in short, because their daughter identified herself as a boy, and liked “boy” things as opposed to “girl” things, they cut off her hair, bought her “boy” clothes, and have begun telling her, and others, that she is a boy.

I have no degree in early childhood development, nor have I studied psychology.  I didn’t even graduate from College.

I am also not here to pass judgement on Ryland’s parents.  I believe that they are doing what they believe to be the most loving thing for their child.  I’m simply sharing my…

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“Gender Performativity” is Victim Blaming

July 2, 2014

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Originally posted on Queer Theory: The new men's rights movement:

A philosophical argument starts with premises. Here’s one:

Men rape women because women are women; existing as a woman is the common denominator between the vast majority of rapes in the world. 

Do you disagree? I doubt you do.

Now let’s talk about traditional, radical, and queer understandings of what makes someone a woman.

The traditional understanding of gender is strongly essentialist. On traditional genderism, you are a woman because God, or nature, has made you one. Your existence as a member of the group “people called women” is based on your ontological status as one.

The radical understanding of gender is precisely the opposite. On radical feminism, you are a woman because the social system you exist in – male supremacist patriarchy – has placed you into a specific caste based on sex. Your existence as a member of the group “people called women” is based on your coercive…

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I Like Women, I Like Women

July 2, 2014

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Originally posted on You Are A Splendid Butterfly:

I also like Reggie Watts, who inspired the title of the post. Yes, he’s a man! Yes, I like him. It is from Fuck Shit Stack, which I am sure will offend lots of people reading this. Sorry. The Women I like to date don’t find it offensive. I understand why you might.

So, this is a post about Lesbians. When I say “Lesbian,” I mean Women who desire sexual, emotional, spiritual connections with Women. When I say “Women,” I mean adult human females. When I say “Female,” I mean of or denoting the sex that can bear offspring or produce eggs, distinguished biologically by the production of gametes (ova) that can be fertilized by male gametes.

Jesus. Fucking. Christ. How does any Lesbian date in 2014 with all these explanations about who it is we want to date?

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A Womb of One’s Own (PDF)

June 30, 2014

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Originally posted on DIY Abortions, Birth Control, And More:

A Womb of One’s Own (PDF)

This easy-to-read, no-nonsense guide will help you understand the basics of DIY Abortion, Birth Control, Emergency Contraception, and more.  If you’ve ever wondered how you could keep your freedom to choose, even in a hostile legal environment, this 10,000 word document will give you the assistance you need. You’ll even find out a new way to use a diaphragm that may make you reconsider your mom’s form of contraception!

This PDF is completely free (although an expanded paper edition will be available later this summer for $10, including information on enhancing your fertility).  Please share it far and wide.

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Boy or girl? Why not have a stereotype instead?

June 30, 2014

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Originally posted on glosswatch:

I knew my sons were boys four months before they were born. For each, a penis was visible on the twenty week scan. They were not, shall we say, “modest”, which is just as well, because I wanted to know in advance. I wanted to be able to prepare myself, by which I do not mean purchase a vat of blue paint and a range of suitably gendered toys. I wanted to know what, in a viciously gendered world, we’d be up against: the conditioning that tells my children to be violent, unfeeling, dominant, unable to admit to vulnerabilities, or the conditioning that tells my children they must be passive, self-effacing, nurturing, mere objects for the purpose of another’s self-definition. I wanted to have time to think about how to protect them (but there’s never enough time for that).

My sons are boys because they have penises. They are neither…

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A hot woman on a magazine cover

June 25, 2014

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Originally posted on Sarah Ditum:

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The revolution came to me as a hot woman on a magazine cover. The revolution came to me in high-high heels with legs totteringly crossed. The revolution wore a tight-tight dress, with breasts thrust forward and shoulders pulled back, facing down the camera but pouting seductively. The revolution’s hair was long, blonde and tonged; the revolution’s make-up was impeccable. In fact, this is what I think: if Laverne Cox on the cover of Time is the transgender tipping point, then it’s time to accept that trans politics and feminism have never been headed to the same place. Because Laverne Cox on the cover of Time does not look like a revolution to me: she looks like what women on the covers of magazines always look like. Beautiful, yielding, toned, sexy. The fact that she is a trans woman changes nothing about the kind of roles that women are supposed…

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