Why is it that heterosexual third-wave feminists understand “intersectionality” when it comes to everyone except Lesbians?
You know, Lesbians? Your sisters? Your sisters who love other Women (and by Women, I mean Women – not Trans Women).
A friend alerted me to a discussion on the Guerrilla Feminism Facebook page, run by a Woman named Lachrista Greco. I don’t pay much attention to Feminist Facebook pages, as they tend to ban Radical Feminist discussions, and I had never heard of Greco until two days ago.
Greco made a statement on her page that “Transphobia will not be tolerated” in response to a thread that devolved into a “what about the transwomen” discussion.
And she banned Women. A lot of Women (including me, because I am mean and scary).
The “transphobia” was, of course, Women, many of whom are Lesbian, stating that “transwomen are men.”
This statement – that transwomen are men – is KIND OF REALLY IMPORTANT for Lesbians.
Because Lesbians have been pressured by Rape Culture concepts created by transwomen (Cotton Ceiling, anyone?) to examine our sexuality and consider that Penis might actually be Female.
The Cotton Ceiling is the same old Compulsory Heterosexuality, just in a Queer form. It’s amazing to me that anyone with a feminist analysis defends it. And yet they do!
Women tire of being told we cannot discuss Rape Culture concepts like the Cotton Ceiling, and other aspects of gender identity that specifically (negatively) impact Women and Lesbians because it might hurt the feelings of transwomen.
Sisters, it is not Transphobic to know that transwomen are men.
Sisters, the feelings of transwomen are not more important than the bodies and spaces of Women.
But fine, disagree and ban us; it’s your right. (Oh and btw, Greco isn’t the first woman to do this; Jill Filopovic did the same thing on her page earlier this year.)
But Greco didn’t stop there.
When called on her willingness to silence Lesbians to spare the feelings of transwomen, Greco DENIED her heterosexuality.
Like, flat out, said “you don’t know that I’m straight.”
GET OUT OF JAIL FREE CARD!
This isn’t the first time this has happened. Earlier this year, Ms. Magazine’s Avital Nathman made similar statements, wondering on her Twitter why her own sexuality was relevant at all to her inability to see the issue of gender identity from the position of other Women (especially Lesbians).
Oh, I don’t know. Because maybe you have a bias? Like, a big huge bias?
Like, maybe the fact that because YOU are comfortable being sexual with Men means that you might (unconsciously? subconsciously? consciously?) think that those of us who aren’t (let’s call us Lesbians) are bigots?
Like, maybe you don’t see how gender identity impacts Lesbians differently (and adversely) AT ALL?
Like, maybe you aren’t considering how the intersections of our sexual orientation create different, complex issues for us to navigate in a heteronormative culture?
Apparently, Greco’s heterosexuality was important enough for her to lie about it. Greco is, in fact, straight, a fact that anyone with Internet access and 5 minutes can confirm from her OK Cupid account.
It’s pretty outrageous that a feminist would play “you don’t know if I’m straight” when silencing Lesbians. Because YES, in fact, despite the dishonest little quip, you are indeed a straight Woman participating in the erasure and silencing of Lesbians.
Disagree with us. Fine. Disagree all day.
But don’t lie.